Online therapy for men who are holding too much alone.
Counselling for men, in the UK and abroad.
There is a version of this that happens in the car. Engine off, house lit, and you sit there one more minute because you cannot walk in as the man you have been all day. The men who find me are usually that man: still performing, still providing, and privately running on anger that arrives before the words, anxiety that never fully switches off, or a confidence that collapsed so slowly nobody noticed. Some are carrying things from a relationship, control, cruelty, fear, that they have never said out loud, because who would believe it happens to men.
It does. And this is not therapy to make you softer. It is a private, structured place to put the weight down, see what it is actually made of, and change what it is doing to you and to the people you love. Online, in English, in the UK or wherever work has taken you.
- BACP registered therapist
- Integrative therapy online
- Trauma-informed and attachment-aware
- For adults in the UK and internationally
For the man everyone thinks is fine.
You hold the job, the family, the banter. What nobody sees is the third re-reading of a message that felt like criticism, the temper you hate yourself for an hour after, the flatness you cannot explain to a partner who keeps asking what is wrong. Being fine has become a full-time performance, and the audience never leaves.
Some men come because the anger has started to cost them things they care about. Some because they were hurt, controlled or diminished in a relationship, and the shame of that sits heavier than the memory itself. Some because they have been strong for so long they genuinely no longer know what they feel. All of it belongs here, and none of it will shock me.
Common reasons people come
- Persistent anxiety or overthinking
- Burnout and emotional depletion
- Relationship stress affecting mood, confidence or sleep
- Attachment pain, fear of abandonment or fear of closeness
- Difficulty trusting yourself or making decisions
- The emotional aftermath of betrayal, disappointment or rejection
- Feeling disconnected from who you used to be
The sentences men actually say in a first session.
If one of these is yours, turn the card.
I am functioning, but not really okay.
Hover or focus to readCoping is a skill, not proof that you are fine. Therapy is for the moment carrying it quietly starts to cost too much.
Trauma and attachmentI do not trust my own reactions anymore.
Hover or focus to readWe look at what is driving the reaction, not only how to manage the surface, so you can respond instead of brace.
Trauma and attachmentI feel disconnected from who I used to be.
Hover or focus to readPressure, anxiety and loss can blur the self. The work is to become clear enough to recognise yourself again.
More about KitaAnger is rarely the whole story. We work with what sits underneath it.
Some problems need practical tools. Some need deeper pattern work. Most need both.
In individual therapy, we look at how anxiety, emotional history, stress, attachment patterns and current relationships are interacting now. The aim is not endless self-examination. It is to become clear enough that you can respond differently, speak more honestly and feel less governed by old alarms.
You can come alone even if the pain is relational.
How therapy works
- 01
Clarify what is most difficult right now.
- 02
Identify the emotional pattern that keeps repeating.
- 03
Understand the history, pressure or relationship context behind the reaction.
- 04
Build steadier self-trust, regulation and clearer choices.
- 05
Review what is changing so therapy stays useful rather than vague.
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Common questions
Do you offer therapy for men?
Yes, a significant part of my practice is counselling for men, in the UK and abroad, working with low self-esteem, high anxiety, anger issues and the pressure of holding everything together while quietly struggling. Many men arrive saying they should be able to fix this alone. Anger management techniques help some; understanding what the anger protects helps more.
Do I need a diagnosis?
No. You can begin with what feels heavy, confusing or repetitive.
Can I come for relationship issues alone?
Yes. Individual work can be a strong starting point when relationships are affecting anxiety, confidence or stability.
How do I know if this is the right page?
If the issue is broader than romantic overthinking alone, this page is usually the better starting point.
Can therapy help with relocation depression, burnout or anxiety from living abroad?
Yes. Individual therapy can hold the particular strain of life abroad: relocation depression, the burnout of holding everything together in a new country, and the anxiety that rises when the familiar supports are gone. You do not need a diagnosis or a crisis to begin.
I feel like I have lost my sense of identity. Can that be worked with?
Yes. A change of country, role or relationship can quietly dismantle the structures that used to tell you who you were. Therapy is a place to grieve what was lost and rebuild a sense of self that does not depend entirely on a job, a place or one other person.
Asking for help is not weakness. It is the first competent move.
Sometimes people arrive with a clear issue. Sometimes they only know they are tired, reactive, confused or no longer themselves. Therapy can begin there.
Start with a free 15 to 20 minute consultationBetween sessions, you may find my resources and worksheets helpful.